As we begin this Advent season, it is a great time to stop and reflect upon our lives and our relationship with God. It is also an important time to reflect upon the example we set for our children as teachers and as parents. The season of Advent grants us a wonderful opportunity to stop and prepare ourselves. In fact, the season calls for it. As many of you know, the word advent means “coming” or “arrival”. Since the arrival is weeks away, the season implies a waiting period, and anything we are waiting for requires preparation.
Parents and educators have the responsibility of being the models for our children during Advent. How our children celebrate the season and prepare for it in the future, will be directly affected by how they are taught right now in these crucial years. What we make important about this season will likely be what they make important about it when they have grown into adults and have children of their own.
With this in mind, I want to share with you a reflection that someone recently brought to my attention. It is from a series of reflections created by Creighton University. This one asks us to analyze our preparation for Advent and how it is perceived by the children around us.
Please take a moment to read it and use the opportunity to reflect as we begin one of the most important seasons of the year.
I wish you all a relaxing and joyful Advent season.
Preparing Children for Advent
|Preparing Ourselves First
The first, and most important thing we can do to prepare our children for Advent is to prepare ourselves first. After all, if we are impatient and crabby – pressured by all the busyness of this season – we won’t be very good at teaching our children anything about quiet, expectant waiting. If they never hear us talk about what we long for from the Lord, how will they learn about this kind of longing? And, if they hear “the coming of Jesus” talked about at church, and perhaps at school, but never hear us talk about the meaning of the coming of Jesus for us, what kind of message will we be giving them?Of course, our children will be watching us and listening to us – what we say and do, and what we fail to say and do. So, the first thing we can give our children is our own commitment to enter Advent as deeply as we can. We want to clear our own spirits so that we can be present to theirs. The graces we receive can be the graces we share with them.Talking with Our Children
To talk with our chidren about our own religious experience doesn’t mean we have to know all kinds of “theology” to “teach them,” nor does it mean we have to “dumb it down” to ridiculously simple terms. We don’t have to “burden” children with the burdens we have to bear in our adult relationship with God, and we don’t have to make their world more unsettling and scary than it already is. We just have to find the right time and place to talk with them about our faith.
We don’t have to criticize everything in our contemporary culture’s preparation for and celebration of Christmas. But, what we tell them about Advent, will help temper the materialism and consumerism involved in the marketing of Christmas to children.
Now the way the people made someone a king was to pour a bit of oil on their head. The one who was “anointed” this way with oil became the king. Well, the prophets began to tell the people that God would send them “an anointed one” (the word they use to say “anointed one” in Hebrew is “Messiah.”) In fact, they said that this Messiah would be called “Emmanuel”, which in Hebrew means, “God is with us.”
So, the message of the prophets was about a promise – that God would save his people from all that they were suffering. The prophets use such wonderful images to tell the people that they could expect and hope for a day when “every tear would be wiped away.” It would be a day of great peace – “the lion would lie down with the lamb” and the people will beat their spears into hooks to prune trees with. And, the most unbelievable promise of all: “death will be no more.”
We all know now that what God was preparing his people for was the coming of Jesus, the Christ (Christos in Greek means “the anointed one.”)
Then, of course, we can tell them about Zachary and Elizabeth and about Joseph and Mary. We can tell them the story from Luke’s gospel first. What is so surprising about the story is that he comes, not like a king, but in great simplicity and poverty. Our God is truly with us, as a little baby. He knows what is like to be a child – everything.
We can tell this story to our children in so many ways. We can let them tell us what it means to them. Through all this conversation, the message will come through. During these weeks of Advent, we want to look forward to celebrating his coming to live our life and to set us free – free from our sins and free from death itself.
We want to open up Advent for them, so that they can get ready for – look forward to – Christmas in a different way. We want to introduce them to faith-filled meanings for light/darkness, hunger/thirsts, and all the other images of Isaiah. We want them to really know the meaning of “the Christmas story.”
We can involve children in preparing food for others. If there is a pre-Christmas party with friends or family, or even a “pot-luck” event we have to go to, we can involve the children in preparing something for the party. And, for Christmas dinner itself, we can tutor the children in making food for others to be happy and full and grateful. We can show them recipes they can make, and let them “in” on the big plans for the whole thing.
We can make plans to visit someone who is homebound or in a nursing home at this time. We can prepare our children for how to go there, how to be there, how to be grateful for the experience.
We can take an Advent or Christmas song, and copy it for our family reading – perhaps a prayer to be read, over and over. We can talk about what the words mean.
With older children, we might find a time to prepare food for a meal program for the homeless or go there to help serve and meet the families there. We may even be able to get them to tell the younger children about the experience, and why it fits so well with preparing for Christmas.
And, as we make these special family traditions during Advent, we will come up with others that fit our family well.